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Old January 16th, 2008, 08:02
willyable willyable is offline
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Default This may be old but It's on my mind

I have actually been out of highschool for years now but durin gmy senior y ear, I lost a really good friend who I use to hang with in the mornings before school. It was a sad day.We got the news that someone tried to rob him and he tried to drive off but they shot him and he tried to drive hisself to the hospital but ended up running into a tree. It was right around graduation when this happen and everyone was so devastated. I think about it often. It was just on my mind, thought I would express myself.
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Old January 17th, 2008, 13:11
Ricardo Ricardo is offline
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Hey willyable, that's no problem at all that it's an older incident.

Actually I think it's good that you remember your friend like that. I had fairly casual friends from high school that have since passed away, and I hadn't really thought of them much lately.

Your post made me remember them, which is cool.
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Old March 17th, 2008, 00:29
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Something like this happened in my city recently. I robbed/shot person tried to drive and ran into a tree.

I guess the person feels they can't wait for an ambulance or they aren't around a phone? I'm not sure what I would do in that situation either.

willyb, I think we don't really get over the loss of high school friends well. Maybe that's because it's once of the first deaths many of us experience.
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Old March 17th, 2008, 12:26
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I know what you mean willyable. I was in my first year of highschool when we lost two classmates. One was to a hunting accident. The other was in an automobile accident that left 3 others hurt. The loss often comes to mind.
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Old March 29th, 2008, 07:22
Nicola Nicola is offline
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i am so thankful that i have not lost any of my friends x
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Old March 29th, 2008, 08:41
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I don't think we ever really forget the death of anyone we knew. It stays with us forever. There are times I think back to all the people I know who have died and it's overwhelming. But maybe it's good that we still remember these people. If we still remember their deaths then they made some kind of impact on us.
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Old March 30th, 2008, 02:19
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Hey Willyable,

My best friend died in a car wreck my junior year of high school. I say best friend but actually he was a lot more than that to me. He died in a car wreck. He called me that day and I didn't answer the phone - we'd had a little disagreement a few days prior. I always wonder if I would have answered his call...maybe I could have saved him. It was a long time ago. In fact, it was in May. This year will be 12 years. I still think of him. The last thing he said to me was that he would always be there for me...I like to think that he is still with me. Losing someone so close changed me forever.
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Old June 4th, 2009, 04:22
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Every terrible tragedy is difficult to forget but this is not a serious matter. If you concentrate your mind in another things then you will forget this tragedy.
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Old July 1st, 2009, 06:39
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Coping With Grief
“All his [Jacob’s] sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. ‘No,’ he said, ‘in mourning will I go down to the grave to my son.’ So his father wept for him.”—GENESIS 37:35, The Holy Bible—New International Version.

THE patriarch Jacob grieved deeply over the loss of his son. He expected to grieve until the day he died. Like Jacob, you may feel that the pain of losing a loved one is so deep that it will never go away. Does such intense grief necessarily indicate a lack of faith in God? Definitely not!

The Bible portrays Jacob as a man of faith. Along with his grandfather Abraham and his father, Isaac, Jacob is commended for his outstanding faith. (Hebrews 11:8, 9, 13) Why, on one occasion, he even wrestled all night with an angel to get a blessing from God! (Genesis 32:24-30) Evidently, Jacob was a deeply spiritual man. What, then, can we learn from Jacob’s grief? Deep feelings of grief and sorrow when a loved one dies are not incompatible with strong faith in God. Grief is the normal and natural response to the loss of someone we love.

What Is Grief?

Grief can affect us in various ways, but for many the overriding feeling is one of intense emotional pain. Consider the experience of Leonardo, who was 14 years old when his father suddenly died from cardiorespiratory problems. Leonardo will never forget the day his aunt broke the news to him. At first, he refused to believe that it was true. He saw his father’s body at the funeral, but it all seemed strangely unreal. For about six months, Leonardo was unable to cry. Often, he found himself waiting for his father to come home from work. It took about a year before the full impact of the loss sank in. When it did, he felt terribly alone. Ordinary things—such as coming home to an empty house—reminded him of his father’s absence. At such times, he often broke down and cried. How he missed his father!
As Leonardo’s experience well illustrates, grief can be intense. The good news is that recovery is possible. However, it may take some time. Just as a severe physical wound takes time to heal, so it is with bereavement. Recovering from grief may take months, a few years, or even longer. But the acute pain you feel in the beginning will lessen in time, and life will gradually seem less bleak and meaningless.
In the meantime, grief is said to be a necessary part of the healing process and of learning to adapt to the new situation. There is an empty space where before there was a living human. We need to adjust to life without that person. Grief may provide a necessary emotional release. Of course, not everyone grieves in exactly the same way. One thing, though, seems to hold true: Repressing your grief can be harmful mentally, emotionally, and physically. How, then, can you express your grief in healthy ways? The Bible contains some practical advice.

Coping With Grief

Talking about your feelings can bring a measure of relief

Many bereaved ones have found that talking can be a helpful release. Notice, for example, the words of the Bible character Job, who suffered the loss of all ten of his children and endured other tragedies. He said: “My soul certainly feels a loathing toward my life. I will give vent to my concern about myself. I will speak in the bitterness of my soul!” (Job 1:2, 18, 19; 10:1) Notice that Job needed to “give vent” to his concerns. How would he do so? “I will speak,” he explained.

Paulo, who lost his mother, says: “One of the things that has helped me is to talk about my mother.” So talking about your feelings to a trusted friend can bring a measure of relief. (Proverbs 17:17) After losing her mother, Yone asked her Christian brothers to visit her more often. “Talking helped to ease the pain,” she recalls. You too may find that putting your feelings into words and sharing them with a sympathetic listener will make it easier to deal with them.

Writing can be helpful in expressing grief

Writing can also be a helpful release. Some who find it difficult to talk about their feelings may find it easier to express themselves in writing. Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, the faithful man David wrote a deeply mournful song in which he poured out his sorrow. This emotional dirge eventually became part of the Bible book of Second Samuel.—2 Samuel 1:17-27.

Reading about the resurrection hope can be a real source of comfort

Crying may also serve as an emotional release. “For everything there is an appointed time, even . . . a time to weep,” says the Bible. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4) To be sure, the death of someone we love is “a time to weep.” Tears of grief are nothing to be embarrassed about. The Bible contains many examples of faithful men and women who openly expressed their grief by weeping. (Genesis 23:2; 2 Samuel 1:11, 12) Jesus Christ “gave way to tears” when he neared the tomb of his dear friend Lazarus, who had recently died.—John 11:33, 35.
Working through grief takes patience, for you may feel that you are on an emotional roller coaster. Remember that you do not have to be ashamed of your tears. Many faithful individuals have found that shedding tears of grief is a normal and necessary part of the healing process.

Draw Close to God

The Bible tells us: “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:8) One of the principal ways to draw close to God is through prayer. Do not underestimate its value! The Bible makes this comforting promise: “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Psalm 34:18) It also assures us: “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22) Think about this. As we noted earlier, many have found it helpful to talk about their feelings with a trusted friend. Would it not be even more helpful to pour out your feelings to the God who promises to comfort our hearts?—2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17.
Paulo, who was mentioned earlier, commented: “When I just couldn’t endure the pain anymore and felt that I could not cope, I would get down on my knees and pray to God. I begged him to help me.” Paulo is convinced that his prayers made a difference. You too may find that in response to your persistent prayers, “the God of all comfort” will give you the courage and the strength to cope.—2 Corinthians 1:3, 4; Romans 12:12.
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