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Old June 23rd, 2016, 16:15
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Suicide is Not a Choice:
People Who Die by Suicide
Do Not Choose to Die
People do not choose to have clinical depression.
People do not choose to have bipolar disorder.
People do not choose to have schizophrenia.
People do not choose to have cancer.
People do not choose to have post-traumatic stress disorder
People do not choose to have obsessive-compulsive disorder
People to not choose to have tourette's syndrome
People do not choose to be autistic.
People do not choose to have seasonal affective disorder.
People do not choose to have heart disease.
People do not choose to have dysthymia.
People do not choose to have narcolepsy.
People do not choose to have muscular dystrophy
People do not choose to have Alzheimer's disease.
People do not choose to have dementia.
People do not choose to have anxiety attacks.
People do not choose to have delusions.
People do not choose to have psychosis.
People do not choose to have phobias.
People do not choose to be paralyzed.
People do not choose to have migraine headaches.
People do not choose to be victims of crime.
Children do not choose to be bullied.
Children do not choose to be sexually molested.
Children do not choose to be abused.
Women do not choose to be brutally beaten by their husbands.
Women do not choose to have postpartum depression.
Women do not choose to be raped.
People do not choose to be discriminated against.
People do not choose to be mistreated.
So why do some people think that people choose to die by suicide?

Answer: ignorance.

Many people (including some who are supposed to be "professionals" in the area of suicide, psychology, and religion) maintain the misguided, ignorant, outdated and idiotic belief that people "choose" suicide.

Over 90 percent of the people who die by suicide have a some type mental illness or depression at the time of their death. And the vast majority of those are untreated, under-treated, or not properly treated.
People who die by suicide are not thinking clearly and they cannot possibly think clearly because their brain is not functioning properly at the time they pass away from suicide.
Their brain is giving them overwhelming signals to die.
They have a chemical imbalance in their brain, are in extreme emotional pain, and their mind is saying "you must die by suicide to end this."

Again it is an overwhelming condition.

They do not "choose" do die their mental illness causes them to die just like some people die from heart disease, cancer, or other things that are out of their control.
And every time an ignorant person makes the statement that "people choose to die by suicide" the stigma of suicide is perpetuated.

Let me draw an analogy between suicide and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD): People with OCD have recurrent, overwhelming, obsessive thoughts that compel them to act in ways that others do not understand. For instance, a person with OCD may believe that his or her house is contaminated -- even though it is immaculately clean -- and thus compulsively washes his or her hands to get rid of the "germs."
So do people who are otherwise very intelligent simply "choose" to wash their hands 500 times a day?
No.
They have a disorder and need treatment.

Now, someone with severe depression and untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide has a similar signal that their brain is sending to them, and that signal is this: you must die by suicide.
That "signal" is incessant and overwhelming.
Again, the person does not "choose" suicide; the mental illness causes the suicide.
One more time: People do not choose suicide; their illness causes the suicide.
People who die by suicide are strong, intelligent, loving, caring people -- who happen to have a mental illness.
And there should be no stigma whatsoever associated with that mental illness regardless of what it is as well as no stigma associated with suicide.
The people who do not understand these basic, irrefutable truths about suicide are part of a serious problem and that problem is ignorance. And, unbelievably, many psychologists, psychiatrists, suicidologists, and members of the clergy are part of this problem and thus they actually perpetuate stigma instead of fighting it!

Please understand that although people who die by suicide do not "choose" to die, suicide can most definitely be prevented Effective treatment can unquestionably prevent suicide.
The vast majority of people who receive treatment for their mental illness get better, or are able to control their mental illness so treatment is the key to preventing suicide.

Lastly the guilt carried by their loved ones is understandable but unfounded questions of why did they do it ?didn't they love me enough? once you realise the chemical reaction from whatever illness bought them to this point holds no logical thinking the illness has taken over the mind and body you can free yourselves from unfounded guilt and mourn your loss as a passing to heaven from a dreadful illness like any other and with time come to an acceptance and peace xx
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