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aramathea July 20th, 2007 21:46

I find it hard to come to terms with my death. I know I won't be here forever, and I believe in God, but I don't know how to accept that I will one day die. I know that I will one day die, but I don't know how to accept it.

trick-r-treat July 21st, 2007 16:28

I think that something like that would only make me happy and find more ways to enjoy my life and make it more fulfilling.

SageMother July 22nd, 2007 22:22

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Originally Posted by aramathea (Post 588)
I find it hard to come to terms with my death. I know I won't be here forever, and I believe in God, but I don't know how to accept that I will one day die. I know that I will one day die, but I don't know how to accept it.

Sometimes I just have to tell myself that everyone has to do it, just like everyone goes through birth.

sandmike123 July 22nd, 2007 23:58

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Originally Posted by harmony_mom (Post 280)
I agree that sometimes what seems like a punishment or God turning His back on us turns out to be a blessing. I sometimes questioned why the Lord would allow my grandmother to suffer through her dementia, forgetting everything and living confused and lost. But I see now the impact that caring for her through that time made on my mother and the rest of our family, and I know that trial was not to test my grandmother, but to strengthen us.

Yes it may strengthen us but at what cost? I have thought about this many times when people suffer before they die.

SageMother July 27th, 2007 01:14

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Originally Posted by sandmike123 (Post 619)
Yes it may strengthen us but at what cost? I have thought about this many times when people suffer before they die.

There are times when suffering is allowed, not by a deity but by the people surrounding the person who is ill. Relief is often with held in the hopes that its being withheld will avoid some other consequence that only matters to those who are not ill.

Taggart July 28th, 2007 10:18

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Originally Posted by aramathea (Post 588)
I know that I will one day die, but I don't know how to accept it.

I think it would be great to have a philosophy or belief system to deal with this and the passing of loved ones.

I don't think I have any great words of wisdom, but I find it helpful to consider the countless generations that have passed before us, and realize how relatively short our time in this life is. I think when we go for years without thinking of this, it's harder to realize when we do consider it.

I think it follows that we should try to have our relationships as positive as possible, and avoid negative experiences, especially with our loved ones.

I hope that doesn't sound too vague. They're just some of my thoughts.

cassiem0221 August 13th, 2007 08:53

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Originally Posted by harmony_mom (Post 280)
I agree that sometimes what seems like a punishment or God turning His back on us turns out to be a blessing. I sometimes questioned why the Lord would allow my grandmother to suffer through her dementia, forgetting everything and living confused and lost. But I see now the impact that caring for her through that time made on my mother and the rest of our family, and I know that trial was not to test my grandmother, but to strengthen us.

Yes, I agree. Everything that God does is for a Cause. I still don't know exactly why Sean is how he is, but I do know that God wouldn't have given him to me unless he had a reason. I know now I cherish my children SO much more than I did before I had Sean and I think that with time I will know what this journey is leading to.

Priscilla August 26th, 2007 10:01

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Originally Posted by SageMother (Post 242)
When my ex-husbands grand father died, we had a wonderful surprise.

With us both being Wiccan, family events centered around churches were always a source of friction, but to our amazement at the funeral home, the service was performed by Freemasons. No one was aware that his grandfather was a ritual magician.

It was a great weight lifted from my ex's shoulders.

That would have been a very interesting funeral! How did the others in the family react? I don't know if you do much story writing, sagemother, that I think this is a story worth a write!

riskey58 August 26th, 2007 17:56

Coming to terms with death.
 
I think it is really hard to come to terms with death. But if you have faith no matter what your religion might be It will help you to come to terms with death.

DavidThomasrau September 24th, 2007 13:24

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if you have faith no matter what your religion might be It will help you to come to terms with death.
Not sure this is necessarily right.

You can't come to terms with death without first coming to terms with life.

What's life for?

You live, you work, you die. What's the point?


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