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Taggart September 25th, 2007 20:56

I've never dealt with a having a loved one cremated.

For those here who have, I was wondering if you retained the person's ashes or if the wish was to have them dispersed somewhere?

Calypso September 25th, 2007 22:29

My grandmother was cremated, and she wanted her ashes buried beside my grandfather. I have a client who keeps his wife's ashes in a lovely container on a shelf and holds long conversations with them. When I'm cremated, I want my ashes cremated in the Rocky Mountains. Each to his or her own, I guess.

Priscilla September 27th, 2007 12:10

I will definitely be cremated and I've asked the kids to scattered my ashes in intervals along the route my husband and I drove on our honeymoon. This is more for them than me because I think that they should have a roadtrip to spend time with each other.

echos September 27th, 2007 17:30

Just a slight warning. Some ashes are more ashes than others. When my Mother-in-laws ashes came back, they were in a coffin like box about the size of a very large boot box. I never in all my other dealings with ashes have seen so much, and so much that was not totally cremated. WOW:( And we have used this service before. Therfore they tell me that some ashes should have burial. Just what was told to me. I found this sorta intresting.

riskey58 September 30th, 2007 17:49

Both of my parents were cremated, and there wishes were to have there ashes burried together. So that is what we did.

echos September 30th, 2007 20:00

I really like that, it is what my step-parents did also.

Priscilla September 30th, 2007 21:32

That's true. I remember we had the same issue with an uncle of mine. Thanks for the reminder. I suppose I should make a little adendum to this. I still want the kids to take the road trip.

nangel78 October 14th, 2007 13:10

I have my mother's urn. She requested to be with myself and my sister. SO the both of us have her in our homes.

ninikins October 14th, 2007 16:17

Are there rules about where ashes can and can't be spread? I'm unsure and would like to know.

riskey58 October 14th, 2007 16:31

I do think that there are rules. I thought that you really were not to spread them in public places like parks and the such but to be honest I don't know many that really listen to the rules.

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