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Old August 7th, 2007, 21:12
Calypso Calypso is offline
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Default Making Funeral Plans in Advance

One of my clients was very indignant to learn that it costs less to make funeral arrangements in advance than to wait until a loved one is deceased and then make the arrangements. Since talking to her, I've confirmed this information with several funeral homes. The whole thing kind of makes me want to go ahead and make my own arrangements now, even though with any kind of luck at all I won't need them for the forseeable future. That way there'll be more left over for my nieces and nephews.
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Old August 9th, 2007, 16:27
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I have never heard of this but I am definitely going to look into it now.... Thanks for letting us know that.
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Old September 8th, 2007, 14:30
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I know of people who've arranged their own funerals. I think it's very considerate and helpful to the friends and family at their time of loss.
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Old September 9th, 2007, 08:05
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I have thought of this often, but have not moved on it, I Think it is a great idea, and know I should really look into this.
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Old September 14th, 2007, 13:15
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This is definitely a good thing to look into. I think it is one of the most considerate things a person can do for their loved ones.
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Old September 23rd, 2007, 10:16
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I think, too, arranging your own funeral absolves your family of a lot of guilt if they don't or can't afford an expensive affair. And some funeral directors "guilt" families into believing that $$$$ = love, which of course, it doesn't. Me, I want a direct cremation and a small memorial service, then scatter my ashes wherever it's legal to do so.
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Old November 12th, 2007, 10:25
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It is unfortunate, but many funeral directors do take advantage of people who are grieving. Many places will gouge you or guilt trip you into spending more. It's best to make arrangements in advance to avoid this and to be able to conceivably check more than one place if you're unhappy.
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Old December 4th, 2007, 05:41
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It is unfortunate, but many funeral directors do take advantage of people who are grieving. Many places will gouge you or guilt trip you into spending more. It's best to make arrangements in advance to avoid this and to be able to conceivably check more than one place if you're unhappy.
This is truly a sad state of affairs that it happens this way! As if the
family doesn't have enough to worry about!
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Old December 4th, 2007, 10:26
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My parents have everything arranged, and it is reassuring knowing that our family will not have to deal with all the details of the funeral when they pass on. We nearly lost my mom a couple years back, so I know what a fragile emotional state I'll be in when the time comes.
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Old January 11th, 2008, 23:55
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If you pay in advance, beware. My local funeral director was put in jail for using all the money for himself from people who paid in advance. Now those people don't have what they thought they'd have. It's a big mess.
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