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Old January 24th, 2014, 13:28
kadoka kadoka is offline
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Default How to cope with guilt?

I cannot say much, in last days I spend hours on Internet writing in so many online forums, waiting for a right response, waiting for something that will make me feel better...
My pekingese dog, my little Asya died 6 days ago, she was 16 years old, blind and deaf, and with arthritis problems, sometimes she took pain medicine but we were able to settle everything, I was completely devoted to making her last years as comfortable as possible: I cooked for her, gave her massages, carried her everywhere, looked after her like she was my baby, I slept with her and held her in my arms every night to make her feel safe.... and had her in my mind all the time... and 6 days ago, I was out, and when I came home I found her smothered with tv and lamp cables, I dont know how she did that, she somehow embroiled herself in this cables and in panic she must have rotate over and over, and I was not there to save her.... I am so horrified and anguished thinking about her last minutes, I cannot get this out of my mind and am eating myself with so much guilt I cannot breath...
I am not very good in english, and I cannot write anymore, I cry all the time... there is nothing left to say.... maybe we must believe what others say ..... that we gave our dogs everything and when its time to go nothing can stop it.... maybe the time passing will make things better.... I just cannot believe this right now.... as much people tell me its not my fault, I feel more and more smitten by guilt...
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Old January 24th, 2014, 19:30
hazelharris hazelharris is offline
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i am so sorry for your loss you must be dreadfully traumatized to come home and find your beloved asya had had this fatal accident i know it must be going over your mind what happened as if its something you can change and beating yourself up but try not to it wasn't your fault that moment in time has gone she isn't suffering and is at peace we can.t be with our beloved pets every second accidents happen it's heartbreaking for you but try and concentrate on all the good years you gave her all her life she had love you should be proud you were responsible for such loving care she isn't suffering she is in rainbow heaven with all the other dogs her sight and hearing is restored and all pain from arthritis has gone she is happy i hope with time you will be able to forget her tragic parting and just remember all the love you shared xx
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Old January 24th, 2014, 19:38
hazelharris hazelharris is offline
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rainbow bridge
By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,

Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.

Where the friends of man and woman do run,

When their time on earth is over and done.

For here, between this world and the next,

Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.

On this golden land, they wait and they play,

Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,

For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.

Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,

Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

They romp through the grass, without even a care,

Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.

All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,

Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

For just at that instant, their eyes have met;

Together again, both person and pet.

So they run to each other, these friends from long past,

The time of their parting is over at last.

The sadness they felt while they were apart,

Has turned into joy once more in each heart.

They embrace with a love that will last forever,

And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.
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Old January 25th, 2014, 16:21
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