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Old April 30th, 2012, 19:04
cal821 cal821 is offline
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I came across this quote... I felt it had many ties in with the grieving and mourning process for us all .. It covers all stages of our loss and road to reinvestment of ourself into a future life after our loss..Please feel free to take a look .. see if the logic hits home with you..

The Past

Only when you understand "why?" can you begin to truly forgive.

Only when you truly face and see and feel your buried fears will they dissipate.

Only when you acknowledge your own feelings can you begin to understand the feelings of others.

Only when you surrender yourself to your emotions can you ever learn true self-control.

Only when you accept that you have your own faults can you accept the faults of others without criticism or judgment.

Only when you look at your own faults can you begin to strive for perfection.

Only when you see both sides will you see and reach balance .

Only when you are truly without criticism or judgment of the faults of others can you begin to forgive them.

Only when you have tasted and realized your own fears can you truly comfort others.

Only when you acknowledge yourself as an individual can you respect that everyone is individual but we are still the same.

Only when you truly know yourself can you truly begin to know others.

The Present

Only when you accept that you are not always right, will you ever begin to listen and not merely dismiss.

Only when you want to listen shall you truly begin to want to question.

Only when you look within and ask yourself for the answers can you truly begin to see the path ahead.

Only when you truly know yourself can you know what you want.

Only when you know what you want can you know what you can accept.

Only when you are honest with yourself can you begin to trust yourself.

Only when you trust yourself will you truly begin to believe in yourself.

Only when you believe in yourself will you start to build your sense of self-worth.

Only when you can bear to be alone with yourself for life can you begin to be your true self with others.

Only when you truly trust your own judgment, can you patiently listen to others then confidently dismiss their judgments.

Only when you have self-worth can you begin to truly believe in others.

Only when you trust yourself can you be truly honest with others.

Only when you are truly honest with others can you completely trust them.

Only when you trust yourself can you truly trust others.

Only when you trust others can you truly let them come close to you.

Only when you learn to take true responsibility for yourself can you begin to make conscious choices and decisions.

The Future

Only when you know the answer can you truly understand why the question was asked.

Only when you begin to simultaneously listen to your mind and your body, can you begin to integrate your true spirit.

Only when you integrate your spirit can you begin to hear it's true calling.

Only when your mind... body.... and spirit truly merge can you be totally free.

Truly.....only when you begin to see, will the meaning of your life become your own true reality.

by....emma sims

I wish you peace
Memory can only tell us what we were,
in the company of those we loved;
it cannot help us find what each of us, alone, must now become.
Yet no person is really alone;
those who live no more echo still within our thoughts and words,
and what they did has become woven into what we are.

I wish you peace and a level path on your journey...


Last edited by cal821 : May 1st, 2012 at 11:15.
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